Would it be patronising to send someone flowers because they have split with their husband?

my mother in law has recently split with her husband after he left her for another woman. Would it be patronising to send her flowers to cheer her up? she doesnt eat chocolate and i dont want to give a bottle of wine as i think that looks like 'drown your sorrows' kinda thing.





what do you think?Would it be patronising to send someone flowers because they have split with their husband?
Sure. Go ahead.Would it be patronising to send someone flowers because they have split with their husband?
You send flowers for a happy occasion and I don't think being left for another woman would be considered one. So, forget about the flowers. What she needs now is someone she can talk to and listens. Talk about positive things and what the future holds for women courageous enough to move on with dignity. Just be there for her
I think that would be a lovely thing to do but not all people like flowers. I personally feel as if flowers belong to funerals. I always give a plant arrangement which you can get at any supermarket also there are lovely cards that say simple things like'; I am only a phone call away'; or ';don't forget I am always here for you';.That's only a couple of things but a card offering friendship is really appreciated and you can cheer her up by having a good old laugh and natter.
I think a cheerful assortment might just make her day. I do like the other posters suggestion about inviting her over, or out for lunch/dinner. I'm sure she could use your emotional support, and getting out of the house is a great way to forget about things, even if it's only for a short time. I know when I divorced, I really struggled with lonliness as it seemed all my friends were married, or couples he had been friends with before we met.





I think it is so sweet of you to think about her during this time, I wish I'd had friends/family like you during my divorce!
I think it's great. Don't be afraid to follow up with a call.
I think its fine though the flowers may remind her of a death or something. Why not invite her to your house so she has some company?
just send a card expressing that you are there if she needs or wants to talk would be more appropriate i think
send them to her husband he could give them to the other woman
I don't think it would be patronizing at all. I think it would be very sweet and a loving thing to do. Just make sure you word the card that comes with the flowers in such a way as to not make it seem as if these are celebratory flowers because she is splitting with her husband, but rather that these are friendship flowers to show you care and are thinking about her. Your mother-in-law likely feels like she is unwanted %26amp; is feeling very hurt %26amp; betrayed. Your friendship %26amp; support %26amp; love could help her tremendously to get through this. Sending her flowers with a note telling her that you are thinking of her, that you care for her %26amp; that you are there if she needs anything, could mean the world to her %26amp; I think you are a wonderful daughter-in-law to even consider doing such a thing!
We usually send flowers to congratulate people on something. She doesn't need flowers..she needs company now. If you live close by go get her, if she lives far invite her over for a weekend or a week.
Go ahead. If it makes her happier then do it, that's the point, right?
When I split from my ex my best friend sent me flowers as she could not be with me (she lives in a different country) with a little card stating. Just want to let you know that I am thinking of you. These flowers only represent the hugs I wish I could give you and I hope they at least give you a little smile.





It made me smile knowing she was thinking of me. The flowers will never be forgotten. When you do it do make clear it using is for comfort not because you are happy or celebrating the split.


In a situation like that the best thing is to let people know you care and that you are there to help.