Why do people assume that when a man and a woman split up she will get custody of the kids?

When my son's mother and I went our seperate ways my son came to live with me. After awhile I filed for custody and it was granted giving her visitation everyother weekend and holiday. When ever there are problems at school they call his mother assumming she's the one he lives with eventhough the school registration list my name and address as contact.Why do people assume that when a man and a woman split up she will get custody of the kids?
Because it is very hard to take children away from their mother. My brothers ex-wife is a very unfit mother and it took a very long time to win that battle. (And he had a very good lawyer)Why do people assume that when a man and a woman split up she will get custody of the kids?
Sorry Charlie men have the worst rep, stereotypes are placed on all, I wish to this day my brother would of got custody but you got to be one sick, demented absent mother to lose a child to a father, sometimes the grandparents win, I worked in an after school program and their wasn't one father that came and got their child, and majority were either in jail or never ever allowed within 200 yards of their child, which is simply sad, you want the rep to change get in touch with fathers and tell em to step up to the maternal plate, good luck and if you weren't told yet, ';way to be a great devoted father!!!'; kudos to you my friend big hugs
Because basically if the mother is a decent mom and there is no argument from the father, mothers are usually given custody of the child/children.





But In this day and age, that is somewhat a thing of the past, and people don't seem to think that there are fathers that have and or want custody of their children.





So it is just an everyday assumption, that the mothers always have custody. Sorry, its seems thats just how it is. Not trying to take anything thing away from you. I applaud you. Because there are still plenty of fathers out there, walking around with their eyes shut, acting like they don't have any children at all.





Many of them will not do what you have done, because they don't want the responsibility. So I take my hat off to you. And I feel that if the forms list Dad's work number as the emergency contact, and Dad's cell for contact....then thats who you call.





This is how children are kidnapped, and other things happen, because they don't follow their own protocol. Just because she is his mother, that means if she went to the school to pick him up, they would release him to her. And if I were you Dad, I would speak with the Principal, or email the school superintendent to get my point across. Because nothing is worse than a tragedy.





Not wishing anything bad, you understand, just making a point. Things should only happen, the school calling her, mother picking him up... if things have been prearranged...by you. Not the other way around.
People ASSUME and they shouldn't I think that the daddy is just as capable as the mother to have custody. Most people think that the daddy runs off but there are plenty of dead beat mom's or mom's that just can't handle the responsibility.


I would contact the school and let them know different.
Women get custody more often. Unfortunately, there are way more deadbeat dads than deadbeat moms.





Trust me, I'm a pregnant woman whose fiance abandoned her and the baby when I was 14 weeks along. Oddly enough, I don't know a single pregnant man.......
It is just because it is what happens in a most of the time, so the assume, sad but true.
Because typically the mother has primary custody, and people don't think to ask.
Because they go with what happens 90% of the time.





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