Do you think men who are afraid of marriage or just regular commitment have had parents who split up?

Just curious to find out if there is a gendered difference here.Do you think men who are afraid of marriage or just regular commitment have had parents who split up?
Not sure really, but from what I've seen and heard, men do tend to take the breakdown of a relationship/marraige very hard and it's not just the money either.


Perhaps it's not so much the parents, but the statistics which are constantly rammed down our throats, but I've not seen a rule yet which states that every marraige is going to fail.





People do screw around, male or female, I've had it happen to me a few times, but yet I have never been scared of going into a relationship or getting married and my own parents are divorced.


But, life is for living, learning and growing through whatever may happen, it's not for living in fear of whatever bad may happen.Do you think men who are afraid of marriage or just regular commitment have had parents who split up?
I think there is probably a higher number of them who have parents that have split up than those who are married, but I see nothing wrong with it. If you want to be single, do the world a favor and stay single. Just make sure you are with someone who wants to be single too.
That might have something to do with it. But a large part is we don't want to be financially raped.





We don't want to lose or get thrown out of our own home, we don't want to have children that might get taken away from us. We don't want our retirement that we work hard for taken away.





Marriage is a lose lose for guy's(well unless you marry a chick that has enough money that being financially raped is no longer possible then it might be worth while).
Nope. When I was a teen, I said I'd never get married. Nobody even took me seriously. Now I am 41 and still single. I guess they believe me now.





My parents are still together. Both are on their first marriage.
I'm quite the opposite. My dad was 17 and mom was 19 when they got married. They stay married their whole lives. I don't see that today... but I do realize that you have to conform to changes in society or get left behind. People mostly screw each other over, no one marries, and the few get divorced. My friend's wives cheated on them. Married women at work used to come on to me sexually(not subtle)... I'm not sure why I would marry. I understand many men are the same, but of course I don't date men(so this is not picking on women)


Although I refuse to do wrong or hurt someone in a relationship, I do realize at this point that it pointless to deal with relationships to begin with as part of 'conforming' to our current society.
Not all of them. I think mostly they are men who are selfish, immature, and not worth the time.
The only guys I know who are afraid of marriage, are the ones who were robbed in their first divorce, by the male-biased justice system.





That women are surprised about men's reaction, is the true surprise.
Yeah either that or one of the parents cheated. Or they had bad childhoods. I know alot of people who have trust issues because of what I mentioned before.





Doggie....so THAT's the reason you rather hump other peoples legs and pee on trees!!!
hi Brian, we were just talking around this topic. Here are some observations from a lesbian perspective around commitment.We actually thought men were more honest about commitment and this generally is related to marriage. When a guy wants to get married he is committed, you can't push someone for commitment if they are not ready. I actually respect the honesty of a person who is true to themselves and their partner in this respect. Women (lesbians) will often enter into a relationship and say they are committed but not be, commitment is confused with wanting to be with someone or co-habitate. In many ways the formal ritual of marriage and the prospect of children can assist people to actually think, reflect and examine what commitment entails. Sex is not commitment, living together is not commitment, marriage is not commitment but a legal and symbolic promise of commitment.





I think most people fear commitment not because of our parents or because we are scarred of marriage. I think we fear it because true commitment binds you to another soul and if we are deceived or mistaken in that promise we suffer a kind of death. I actually think we need to take it more seriously and not undermine the wonderful energy/desire/faith of committing with mundane things. It is special and powerful - that's why we get so sick if we get it wrong.
I think a lot of men who are afraid of marriage are afraid of what they THINK marriage is. They view it as being tied down,having to spend money all the time, and being oppressed. The solution is: marry a fun and exciting woman who has her own money. It's that simple.
Some of us are just afraid of having the majority of our assets drained from us by overly zealous attorneys.